Season of Solitude- What Happens Before You’re Single

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37 Responses

  1. Meia Nicole says:

    Amazingly said. I have some single friends I’d be sharing this with. Awesome!

  2. Vanessa says:

    Thanks for sharing your experience. I agree most of the TV shows make us believe that dates will just line up, but it’s not as straightforward in real life.

  3. Ashleigh says:

    This blog really spoke to me, especially as I’ve been in a season of solitude for years…but what you wrote here reasonated with me, as I am now, at 34 years old, finally discovering the real me.

    • Tiffany Rae'Shan says:

      I’m so happy to hear that you are fulfilling your quest to self-discovery! I pray that this season results in you receiving more than you can imagine!

  4. Patrice says:

    “Clearing the noise” is so vital. you realize in the midst of a dry phone and Friday nights at home alone, that you’re left alone with your thoughts. I definitely agree that being single allows for necessary space to recalibrate and repurpose. Some attempt to immediately fill the empty space and time, but as you show, i think it’s vital to do the opposite.

    • Tiffany Rae'Shan says:

      So, so true! The longer we run away from being by ourselves, the more we prolong the self work!

  5. Kay says:

    I love this! I went through a season of being single after a bad breakup. I’m talmbout really bad after a year & half and living with each other for the last portion of it. During this time, I was really able to work on what I needed as opposed to what I wanted. It was God’s way of inviting me back to Him because I had been MIA. It’s not ironic that I’ve been in a relationship with a man who pushes me closer to Christ. Thank God for my season of solitude.

    • Tiffany Rae'Shan says:

      I totally understand. Seems like no coincidence that as soon as God was able to get you alone and closer to Him, He brought you a godly man, how awesome!

  6. MyMy says:

    My time of solitude has been full of lessons, tears, joy, and so much more. At first, I hated it, until I realized just how valuable it was.

  7. Tracey says:

    Oooohhhhh….I love this post! I need to share this with a few people who just don’t get that not being in a relationship with someone else is being in a relationship with self & God! In fact, the latter is probably the best one for many of us! GREAT POST!

  8. Vivi says:

    this is really assuring! I definitely have a tendency to idolize relationships when I’m in search of one. Thanks for sharing your experiences!

    • Tiffany Rae'Shan says:

      I have been guilty of that as well, it’s easy to get lost in the desires of your heart. Thank you so much for reading!

  9. GIRL! I bookmarked this post! I am recently going through a breakup and this hit THE SPOT! Girl…continue being a voice to this generation

    • Tiffany Rae'Shan says:

      I’m so glad you were able to relate! Break-ups are never easy but I hope that things are better than ever for you on the other side of it!

  10. Ebony says:

    I think it’s important to aleays have self reflection . Even more important to know more about who you are when you are single. That will help when a relationship is introduced. Love this post. Very open and honest

  11. Olivia says:

    I’ve been in a relationship for almost two years. When single I was happy, dating occasionally and traveling when I could. These tips are good for women who are single. I miss being single sometimes. But I’ve grown so much in my relationship. I’m not taking that for granted. There needs to be a better representation of being single in the media.

  12. Shatia says:

    This here!!!!!!! Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!! I’ve been single for some time and people attach this “issue” to it! It makes me sooo mad when people ask “dang you’re not snatched up yet?!” The assumption that it’s people lined up is the biggest misconception ever! It’s sad people make single in your 30s a stigma. It’s hard at times but like you said the growth has been essential! Singleness has attributed to the last 4 years being thee absolute best part of my journey! Reading your words helped deeper solidify so much and reminded me of some things! Thanks again!!

    • Tiffany Rae'Shan says:

      I have witnessed your amazing journey and I am so glad you’ve been able to see the beauty in it even when it gets hard. I am sure the best is yet to come! Thanks for reading!

  13. Anita says:

    I loved this. It’s very true. Good reminders for myself.

  14. Elle (CleverlyChanging) says:

    I will share this post with my friends. Several have gone through bitter breakups that ruined them emotionally. Finding respite and healing is essential.

    • Tiffany Rae'Shan says:

      I appreciate that and yes healing is the most important often most challenging part. Thanks for reading!

  15. Aww, this was refreshing! Makes complete sense!! Thanks for sharing

  16. Natasha says:

    You better preach that good word for the solo sisters! I know that your encouragement is going to bring someone through today! And sometimes – rushing into another relationship right after a very serious one isn’t always the right thing to do, and with television/movies/books giving a feeling that you’re odd if you don’t, it’s HARD not to take that type of stuff personally!

    • Tiffany Rae'Shan says:

      Absolutely! It is so hard to slow down and take your time in this society. Thanks for reading!

  17. Nicole says:

    I was single for 5 years before I dated my husband and I honestly loved it. In some ways, I miss it not because I am not happy in my marriage or anything like that but for the spiritual reasons. I was less distracted and able to solely move around the way I wanted and the isolation forced me to look inward at my issues. But when you are a wife, mother, and entrepreneur you get cluttered with the day-to-day stuff and it is so easy to forget about you.

  18. Stop worshipping the idol of #relationshipgoals! Yes! As a married woman of 15 years, I can honestly say it ain’t always easy. Wait for the right one and stop rushing in.

  19. Girl, this is a WORD. I have friends that need to read this. Thank you and thank you.