I am here on purpose!

   Hello world, I’m Tiffany, nice to meet you! I will spare you with the surface, trivial, “getting to know you” narrative and get to the point, I am here on purpose!

All my life I’ve heard the sayings ‘When you know better you do better” or “Experience is the best teacher”. While this may be true, many fail to mention the hurt that’s often associated with learning your lessons. Sometimes the cost of becoming wiser is a bit much to bear. I know this because I have done my share of learning and growing, feeling all of the aches along the way. While I celebrate my progress and appreciate my process, I must also acknowledge my pain. This journey has not been easy and it is far from over. As long as I have breath in my body there will be room for improvement. I will say that I have finally come to a place where I feel good about where I am. I live in the moment, cherish every day, and have high hopes for the future.

But it wasn’t always this way…..

See I was the girl with the plan. I knew what I wanted and was determined to have it. I also had the “timeline” embedded in my mind of how and when everything would play out. I would fall in love, get married, have kids, establish my dream career, score the house, car, and whatever else signified a successful life. I would do this all by the time I turned 30 years old. Sound familiar? Oh and I have to mention that nowhere in this plan did I even consider God’s will for my life. I pretty much told God to sit back and watch me work cause I got this! Well I think you can guess how that turned out but in case you’re wondering let me break it down.

I am now a divorced mom of a 3 yr. old that had to pretty much start over and learn how to adapt to her new normal. I have a great, fulfilling career and I have achieved success in my field. However as I become more aligned with my purpose I realize that I will eventually have to walk away from the only line of work I’ve ever known. Plus I am a few years past my age 30 goal mark. Now of course there is much more to this juicy story but a lady never gives it all away too soon right?

When it all came crashing down I asked myself (more like cried to myself) How did I get here? Why is this happening? After I was able to calm my heart long enough to hear the answer it all made sense. It was like my mind entered a time machine of thought travel taking me back to the day I decided that my plan was better than God’s. I realized all the times I ignored my intuition and better judgement getting in my own way, rushing the pace of my destiny when in reality I had no idea where I was headed. It was during this time of deep retrospection that God revealed some things to me and I was given my assignment. I didn’t know it then, but this blog would be the beginning of it all.

I could qualify myself by listing my credentials (master’s degree, licensed therapist, trauma specialist with 12+ years’ experience working with family systems) but that would only be a portion of what brings me here. I am a woman, a flawed human being, and an empath who has loved, lost, failed, renewed, and started over on a journey that is far from over. I have a deep passion for sharing my offering with anyone who wants or needs it. With words as my vehicle and God’s calling as my fuel I believe that I can help facilitate healing for the hurting.

So there you have it, my introduction, the beginning of what I hope will be many conversations between us. Listen, at the end of the day we all want the same thing, to live our best lives and become our best selves. Unfortunately, many barriers get in the way over time. Here’s the plot twist though, we all have the power to change that! Come join me on this adventure of identifying our obstacles while healing the right way so that we can live and love well!


Until next time,


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35 Responses

  1. Nicolya says:

    I am so excited that you shared this blog! You are such a blessing to women . Thank you.

  2. Markisha says:

    Alright, Tiffany! I’m so excited for you on your new journey, hand in hand with the Most High! May He bless you, keep you, make His face shine on you, show you His favor, and give you His peace!

  3. Stephanie Starks says:

    Great read! You are telling my story sis!

  4. Ashley says:

    Congrats on your first blog post! Can’t wait to hear where this takes you 🙂

  5. Ebonee Hughes says:

    Beautifully stated. I’m excited to read more. And if I ever forget to say it again please know I’m proud of you and I’m loudly cheering for you. Let your purpose unfold!

  6. Cheryll Harris says:

    Tiffany you are simply AMAZING!!! Thank you for sharing your world of words with us!!! I am so grateful to call you friend!

  7. Cheryll says:

    Tiffany you are simply AMAZING!!! Thank you for sharing your world of words with us!!! I am so grateful to call you friend!

  8. Taija Dawn says:

    This is an amazing post! You have a true talent! Keep it up!

  9. I don’t think I’ve ever been so excited about a blog in my life! 😂I haven’t had the same experiences but it aounds like we have the same mindset- can’t wait to see what lessons you share here! Great intro💙

    • Tiffany Rae'Shan says:

      I really appreciate that! From the looks of your amazing blog, we def share the same mindset and outlook!

  10. Moriah says:

    I love how people use their blogs to open themselves up to others to help them learn from their past. Good blog.

  11. Erica says:

    I feel you on so many things you said. Can’t wait to read more.

  12. Patrice says:

    Can’t wait to see what else you do on the blog. I’m sure great writing will come out of your experiences!

  13. This is super dope and you are off to a great start!!

  14. Can’t wait to read more from you. Loving what you’ve shared so far.

  15. Wow! You were very raw and transparent with this post. Love this!

  16. Galen says:

    This is so good! I’m excited to follow along with you on this journey! Thank you for being open with us!

  17. Kiara says:

    You’re so brave! As a fellow empath I felt your emotion through your words. I’m excited to see your journey. Congrats Tiff!

  18. Rena Bradley says:

    That was Great!! You have a true talent Tiff, Love u so much ❤️

  19. Monet says:

    Bubbles I am so proud of you. It’s never to late to walk in your purpose. God uses everyone from babies to the elderly to tell His story. You have always been a very talented writer and I’m so glad to see you taking your words of wisdom to new heights. May your gift be guided by God. I love you and I’m supporting you every step of the way doll!

  20. Judy says:

    Love this and it was needed!!

  21. Courtenay says:

    Your introduction is the last entry I have read from you, but I must say, I am excited to see what other pieces you roll out. I love the previous two. The “where I should be” vs “trust the process” dichotomy is one that I have struggled with all my short life, but I am trying day by day to just trust that I will end up where I need to be. Love your writing, and can’t wait to read more 🙂

  22. Ashlee Pfile says:

    Very excited for you and can’t wait to see where this journey takes you!!! Miss you!!