Glowing Up Gracefully- How to Beast a Life Transition

“You must shed your skin again and again until you find the shell your soul belongs in.”


They say the only constant in life is change and really this is how it should be. Our existence wouldn’t be as meaningful if every day was the same and we never evolved. Our main objective on this earth is to become the best version of ourselves which requires some adjustments from time to time. It would be awesome if we could be the manager of these life changes but unfortunately that is not how it works. We do not get to choose how we grow, what obstacles we will need to overcome, or when God decides it’s time for us to level up. Any transition comes with some amount of stress and discomfort which is what keeps many of us from following through. Let’s face it, no one wants to be the caterpillar yet we will graciously accept our wings. The process may not be easy but it will always be necessary. Therefore the best way to glow up gracefully is to understand that the purpose of your experience is to prepare you for the next dimension that awaits. Once you get this, your transition will make you and not break you.


Here are some of the phases you may encounter during your life transition:


Shaken and Stirred  (The Wake- Up Call)

All transitions start with “the call”. This can be by way of a sudden realization, epiphany, a sign, confirmation, etc. Other times it is more subtle, like a whisper to your soul, a slight stirring in your spirit. You may not have complete clarity on what it is you are being called to do but you know you are being guided towards something. If you ignore the call it will just continue to nag you until you take notice. I believe that God never stops trying to get our attention. However in some cases, we can disregard the messages being sent to a point when we do not hear them as easily. It’s kind of like pressing the snooze button on your eternal alarm clock. This phase is not to be ignored because refusing to respond can delay your destiny. It is also important not to get ahead of yourself or try to force a next step. All you need to do is be patient and pay attention. Be open to where you’re being led and agree to follow. In time you will begin to see a vision for your future and what you are to accomplish during this transition.


Shedding and Shifting (The Work)

Now that you’ve answered the call, you will begin to notice some changes. You may feel convicted about unhealthy thought patterns and behaviors. You are being molded and you can feel it. This phase can be brutal because there are parts of you that need to heal and pieces that need to die in order to move forward. Unresolved traumas begin to resurface and will need to be addressed because you cannot take this emotional baggage with you to your next level. This is a time of release and honestly, not everything will be easy to let go of initially. There may be moments of conflict when you feel caught between who you are and who you are becoming. Feelings of isolation and loneliness may occur until you find your tribe (or they find you). However, gradually you will lose interest in certain people, places, and things only to be drawn to surroundings that best serve you. Be gentle with yourself during this time because evolution can be exhausting. Rest and retreat when you need to. Remember, everything that you are losing will be replaced by something greater.


Stillness (The Wait)

While the shifting and shedding was very eventful, this phase will be quite the opposite. What is so difficult about the stillness is that you have no idea what is happening or what God is doing. It feels like walking in the darkness with only a glimmer of light at your feet. You may have a vision of what will manifest but nothing has occurred in the physical sense yet. You will wonder if you are in the right place or if you made a mistake. You will question yourself and may have a desire to revert back to old ways. It is so easy to let doubt creep in here causing you to think that nothing is happening when in fact everything is happening just behind the scenes. The uncertainty can cause a feeling of overwhelming restlessness. As frustrating as it is, all you can do is wait. Trust in the process and do not allow your faith to waiver. If you give up now you will never reach the promise so stay encouraged! Remember why you started this journey, you knew something amazing was waiting on the other side. Do not try to rush through this phase or make something happen because you are tired of waiting. Instead seek the reason for the pause and focus on your readiness. If you are truly being still and quiet, you will receive clarity about what you need to be working on. Enjoy this down time while you can because soon it’s gonna get real!


Soaring (The Rise)

It is time to take flight! You may feel a burst of activity as you are going from a season when all was quiet to your time of soaring when things may be happening fast and blessings are coming full force. Accept it all with open arms. You have been built for this moment so revel in it. Do not self-sabotage by second guessing or waiting for “the catch” as sometimes we struggle with experiencing joy more than pain. Allow yourself to believe what you are seeing. After all, it is the vision coming to life. Transitions not only take you to new heights but your faith is strengthened along the way. You will need this because as the saying goes “new level, new devil”. You will face new challenges, barriers, and attacks which is what the process was preparing you for. All of the phases you have to endure are essential to your transformation because you’re being positioned for future growth. Then when it is time for you to enter another shift in life, you are ready, you are conditioned, and you are here for it all! In the meantime, spread your wings and enjoy the view from above!


A moment of reflection:

Are you currently in a state of transition? Which phase are you in? What are you doing to move forward?

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17 Responses

  1. Heather says:

    This really spoke to me. I’ve been making alot of changes internally over the last year or so & I still have things I’m moving towards. This gives beautiful reassurance to the journey. Especially the wait… that’s when you wonder if all the effort is working.

  2. Courtenay says:

    I can’t quite pin down which phase I am in, but maybe a mixture of shedding & shifting and stillness. College was a HUGE wake up call for me in many different facets, so now I am closing up loose ends with those events and trying to level up. Wonderful post!

    • Tiffany Rae'Shan says:

      Thank you! College is definitely a major transition in many ways so I know what you mean.

  3. Ashley says:

    I love this idea! You express it in a very beautiful way! I have definitely gone through moments like this in my life and feel like I will have many more moments in the future! I’m saving this so I can read it again!

  4. Kay says:

    Girl, did you get up in my brain? I loved this and how overall transition is broken down into these stages. I would say I’m between stages 1 & 2. I’m beginning to hear the call louder and louder reminding me that it’s time for me to do the work or I’ll be stuck. I’ve often been reminded that some of your best things happen during a time of change!

  5. Harretta says:

    The whisper to the rise is a long and tough journey… but worthwhile! You’ll learn so much about yourself and others! It’s a beautiful process that is shared between you and God! I personally waver between Stage 3 & 4… because while the stillness occurs, doubt comes in to challenge your new set wings to see if you’re truly ready to soar! I’m ok with this because it’s a part of constant evolution/growth!

  6. Leslie says:

    This was a powerful read. I recall going through this a couple years ago and being at my wit’s end. I sat in bible study one night and the Lord spoke through the teacher to tell me to wait. It was the hardest thing I had ever heard, especially when I felt at the end of my rope. But God is truly faithful because as always He had a plan. Thanks for writing this!

    Leslie / @hautemommie /

    • Tiffany Rae'Shan says:

      That wait can be brutal for sure! You’re right though we may not be able to see what God is doing but He always has something in store if we can just be patient. Thanks for reading!

  7. Kristal says:

    This can be a self help book. So well written I have been in some situation where I did not want to carry on but I did. And I gained so much for it.

  8. Christine says:

    Beautiful post- very well written

  9. WilsonsGuide says:

    Such an eloquent — and positive — way to approach transition. Will definitely be referring back to this frequently!

  10. Elise says:

    Wow. This is a very strong post. My life is definitely in transition. For me it is about seeing the beauty in what has past and what is to come.

  11. Shainna says:

    This is such a great post. I definitely needed to read this. I’m in the stillness phase. And it sure is hard. I just want everything to fall into place already. But I know it takes time.

    Thank you for this post.