First Of All He’s Separated, Not Single

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14 Responses

  1. Meghan says:

    I absolutely agree!!! Thank you for sharing!!!

  2. Miranisa says:

    I have never been in the situation and so I do not feel in the position to really have any thoughts on it. I feel like you made some valid points especially the part about not being a part of the process or proceedings.
    I always thought there was nothing wrong with it but I have never considered how the other divorcee would be feeling.

    • Tiffany Rae'Shan says:

      Like you I didn’t get this initially either until experience taught me some things lol. Thanks for reading!

  3. Erin says:

    I definitely agree with you. I would not date a separated man. To me that means they are still emotionally unavailable. This made me think about Keyshia Cole and Booby on Love and Hip Hop. They been separated for years but just recently finalized their divorce. Why let it linger if you are really over? I’ve also seen situations where a man was separated and a tragedy brought him and his wife back together. You just never really know.

  4. Markisha says:

    Tiffany, this right here!!! Thank you for being bold in sharing the truth of the complexity and depth of the marriage commitment. All I can say is SOMEBODY GETS IT!!!

  5. Melissa says:

    Girl! I loved this post. I have not encountered this situation yet in life (hopefully I won’t), but some of the things you said applied to situations that I’ve dealt with in the past and I just felt something. This right here,”…either way, God is not going to bless it! So often we want to practice worldly dating while asking for God’s approval. The way a relationship begins is important, it is the foundation that you build on.”

    I was an emotional rollercoaster when I decided to date against what I knew was right and what God wanted for me. I also didn’t start the relationship off right so it was just a mess from the start.

    Either way, thank you so much for sharing. I truly enjoyed the read. #BLMGirl

    • Tiffany Rae'Shan says:

      I love your insight! I agree this can apply to many relationship situations. Thanks for reading!

  6. I have not started dating yet but this is good information to keep on stand by; just in case I ever come in contact with this type of situation. I am happy you shared this post about the cons of dating a separated individual. They all make sense. This man is separated meaning he is still tied to someone else.

  7. I have not dated a separated man. But, I don’t think I would unless I felt there was something there. One he’s separated. And like you said you’ll become a part of his problems in his previous relationship. Now, this doesn’t mean a separated guy doesn’t deserve a chance. Especially if you have chemistry and a connection.

  8. Myisha says:

    Omg! Yes!
    I have felt like this for a long time. Great post. Thanks for sharing.

  9. Kamrin says:

    I love this post! I would not date a separated man because it’s honestly just a set up. Unless he is officially divorced, there’s always that wiggle room for him to go back to his wife.